Small Victories

Wow I must say two blog post in two days is a new record for me! 

Yesterday was a good day for me.  There were many small victories that out weighed the little defeats so that's a good day right?

It started out by actually getting the kids to school on time!  Yay!  Maybe my son's hair wasn't combed but hey he got there, and not only on time early.  Today maybe he was late and forgot his backpack which I had to turn around and go home to get but, we won't talk about that.  We will talk about the fact that I kept my cool and didn't get upset about something that was done.  I just dropped him off and immediately went back to retrieve the back pack.  We also won't talk about the fact that the Ipod somehow got remembered of course.  

Another victory!  Half of the cloths that were washed Friday, and folded Monday got put away yesterday!  That's under a week between wash and put away!  That's a victory for me!  There are still half to be put away, but they are mostly my cloths, and I will wear them eventually so I am merely just making them quicker to get at. 

Victory, homework got done before 7pm!  This sometimes gets left until morning when its already hectic so I really try hard to get this accomplished before bed and last night we won!  And without complaining!  I think my daughter is actually starting to hate homework less which is great because she is only just beginning and I can't take 12 yrs of fighting homework I just can't.

This paragraph with be comprised with non-victories so the text will be downsized to further emphasize the victories.  No piano happened yesterday...man can I tell you how exhausting piano is for me!  My kids love it which helps but the method we are using really relies on the mother teaching the child by copying and memorizing songs.  So I have to learn and reteach songs to 2 children.  Lets just say I've heard twinkle twinkle enough to last a lifetime.  But it's not all bad just hard to do everyday.  Second loss actually happened today my daughter went to school without looking like she just walked out of a GAP add.  But I did manage to brush her hair which could be considered a victory so they cancel each other out.  Also lunch for her consisted of dry mini wheat cereal, crackers, and a danimal yogurt, also another fail.  There were others like I didn't vacuum, or deep clean bathrooms, blah blah blah... you get the point.  No need to rub it in any further.    

I don't go through my days thinking exactly what I have failed at or not.  But I do have to remind myself of what I have actually accomplished in a day or else when I look at my disheveled house I may cry.  This morning my daughter asked me if I was going to yell today, like I'm some kind of pre-mediated yeller.  Apparently she thinks I think about it way before hand which you all know is never the case for us mothers, exactly the opposite.  I think or pray to have the strength of patience.  Which yesterday worked out.  Although I forgot appointments, had to run the garbage out to the road like a mad woman and didn't make a Martha Stewart dinner, (thank you papa Kelsey's for helping me out on that one) I also didn't stress out about it and make myself crazy.  I just made it through. 

And sometimes that's all we can do.  Relish in the small victories they will be your sanctuary.     

My very long hiatus...

Well I have decided to give this blog thing another try.  I have lots of ramblings that go through my head and why not write them all down for your enjoyment, or distaste whichever strikes your fancy. 
 
Little recap on this thing we call life.  I am a mother to two beautiful children who push my buttons daily, but also bring me the greatest joy.  We also have a little rat dog we like to call coco, or a slur of other can not be typed "mommy words".  I am also a wife to one of the best men put on this earth.  Seriously ask around you won't be lied to. 

Lets bring everyone up to speed on what we all look like now

First off the children.  They take up about 75-80% of my day...100% if you count the occasional cleaning up after them I do.  And no, I wouldn't change it for the world. 

When we first had our son I literally was so happy, I would just look at my baby and think about how awesome it was and why had no one really described it the way I was feeling?  Even if they had they wouldn't have come close to encompassing all the wonderfulness (is that a word?) that comes along with being a mom.  They also would have never captured how hard it is either.  Every day I wake up and try, and ALMOST every day I lay down and think about some part of my day where I have failed.  But there are those really, really good days that keep you going.  Or those blog posts where some other mother just gets it and really puts it out there and you sympathize with her and think maybe I'm not the only one.  Maybe I'm not the only one who looses it during piano lessons, or when we are working on math, or for the 1,000 time while telling your 5 year old what sound the letter D makes.  Maybe I'm also not the only one apologizing again for raising my voice when yet again we are late for school drop off.  And I'm being nice when I say "raising my voice" its a little louder than "raising"  it's awaking the dead.  Many times when talking to other moms I try to work out what adults are suppose to act like with their children, but that all goes out the window when my 5 yr old (who is exactly like me) just won't give up.  Eventually, and sometimes she does win, but the small stubborn 5 yr old inside me puts up one heck of a fight!  But I'm working on acting like an adult and just figuring a way to still "win" but not break that spirit of my 5 yr old but come on it's HARD!  I want my kids to grow up confidant, and independent, but also considerate and kind.  I'm not sure I'm the best example but dang it I'm trying!  My daughter hasn't asked me for a while if I would start a yelling jar so I suppose I'm getting somewhere. (and I hate to admit that jar would be for me.)

Contrary to what this picture suggest BOTH of my children are happy, I think

I also don't want all of you thinking our home is a constant battle ground.  Between the moments of temporary control loss there are shinning moments of love and kindness and consideration (on my part too!)  Constantly my kids show me what it is to love unconditionally and also what it is like to be silly.  They make it ok to dance crazy, or sing loud, or just do things for no reason.  As brother and sister my kids get along better than I ever imagined they would.  They are each others best friend no matter if its legos, and hot wheels, or barbies and babies they do it together.  I hear of a lot of other parents who have kids that constantly fight and bicker and it makes me grateful for the wonderful relationship my kids share and I hope it continues. 

Ok second the husband.  This guy is seriously my best friend.  Yes we fight sometimes maybe not like normal people but how we do it works for us.  10 years in marriage and it seems like we are working out all the small kinks and finally just settling into life.

 

Third the dog, she is a dog who occasionally has accidents in the house, chews up small toys or runs as fast as she can when I try to catch her but, she is a really good, sweet, charming little thing and we love her. 

  
I do have to say, and I think of this often, the point we are at in our lives is pretty good right now.  The kids are pretty independent, they are reaching an age where they want to do activities we as adults can really enjoy with them and they are past the cry for no reason stage (fingers crossed).  I'm not saying we don't have the occasional melt down but at least now we can somewhat reason/bribe our way out of it. 

OUR 4YR OLD SURVEY

I posted this last year thanks to my friend shannon and i'm so bad at blogging this is my first post since then...oh well!

What is your favorite color? Purple...but she did say pink first...so not much has changed!
What is your favorite food? Oatmeal...I swear she said this all on her own!

Favorite animal? Lion

What is your favorite TV show? Tinkerbell

What kind of music do you like? anything mom sings...she is sweet

What are you really good at? Riding motorcycles! 
What are you not so good at? She said she's good at everything!

Who are your best friends? Cienna and Brinley her cousins

What is the best thing about having a older brother? He's nice

Do you think Mom & Dad should have another baby? Yes because I love babies

Do you ever not like having a brother? no

What do you want to do when you grow up?Be Rapunzel 

If you had a lot of money, what do you think you would buy? A princess, apparently we are into owning people now

What is the best thing about your mom?  She helped me learn to ride the motorcycle

What is the best thing about your dad?  He calls me his princess

What do you think Heaven is like? White sky, nice heaven, Jesus is there with his own life and I like Jesus
Tell me something that is really funny: fighting with our dog teco

What is your favorite thing to wear? Dresses
What does love mean? it means thank you, goodbye

What does it mean to be a good friend? helping, shoveling, raking, riding motorcycles (keep in mind we are currently finally getting our yard in!)

If you could fly somewhere where would you go? St.George to see travis and libby and get her bow. 

What is your favorite word? Silly goose

A little Survey of my soon to be 3Yr Old Baby Girl!

My friend Shannon had posted this on her blog dooleydaze for her 4 yr old son and I thought it was cute and well I need to post so why not this!

What is your favorite color? Pink
What is your favorite food? Pink ...(this may be a trend) then she said I mean the yellow food

Favorite animal? Pink...serious...Cat

What is your favorite TV show? TinkerBell

What kind of music do you like? Tinkerbell song

What are you really good at? Jumping on the trampoline

What are you not so good at? anything

Who are your best friends? Grayson (brother)

What is the best thing about having a older brother? he plays with me

Do you think Mom & Dad should have another baby? yeah

Do you ever not like having a brother? Nope

What do you want to do when you grow up?I want to have an animal and a lion

If you had a lot of money, what do you think you would buy? a lion and a kitty

What is the best thing about your mom?I like mom running

What is the best thing about your dad? I love him

What do you think Heaven is like? I think there is icecream
Tell me something that is really funny: as she farts and says ahh i farted...

What is your favorite thing to wear? the Tinkerbell dress

What does love mean? I want you to be nice

What does it mean to be a good friend? I play with my brother

If you could fly somewhere where would you go? I would go to Tinkerbell (she's a fan)


What is your favorite word? Tinkerbell *(shocker)

When I came to pick it up tell me you accidently sold it to some old guy. That was a horrible thing I had to tell my children who cried to me....TY!!

Thankyou DI for ruining my day, making me cry and doing the same to my kids by letting me buy a great powerwheels car for my kids and then.........

Soooooo Sad!

My blog that is...I will some day decorate my house so it looks like we live here and take pictures but until that day comes who knows when i will update! Sorry!